Dark places

I am in a dark place.

Sometimes we just feel stuck. Like there's nothing out there for us. Like we have no place in the world. Like no one cares and that everything we try to accomplish eventually fails.

That all our relationships, be it friends or romantic partners, end up a mess or with someone hurt. Sometimes it just doesn't happen because people don't really show interest or sometimes I have to step away in order to avoid hurting myself.

That we try our best at work, under very difficult circumstances, you even achieve something but it doesn't matter. It's never enough. There's always someone better to be chosen and more fit for the position than you.

People do seem to like you and recognize your POTENTIAL, though. "You are such a nice guy" "You work so hard" - they encourage you, and so, you get hyped up. You do feel that you have all these potentials that could be developed in these areas. But it's not enough because as much as people talk, nothing really happens - a string of bad luck, a tragic event, or bad timing, or the problems the country is facing...in all spheres micro or macro, the circumstances are never on your side.

You know, it's really hard to be happy with ourselves this way. It's hard not to feel pathethic or that you don't really matter. Because then, on top of all that, your old issues ressurge. Things you thought you had left behind rise to weight over you again. So in these many layers of disappointment, your emotional side is crumbled and so you start to unwillingly take it out on your body.

So you feel even worse, and it brings another emotional down, which triggers more physical somatization, and it goes on and on, like an evil labyrinth of anxiety, pain and depression...and each step further you feel more lost. Like you have no good choices, only to stay stuck or get worse.

I'm trying. I'm really trying. I am trying to learn how to live in the moment and that. Trying to understand why I am feeling this way. Maybe nothing makes any sense really, so why bother. It's really hard. Some days I get stuck here and I can't get out. Well, it's one of those cold dark nights again. I guess I should just go to bed.

You took my heart, deceived me right from the start

So today this song happened to pop right in front of me.

 I remember you called yourself "avengerangel".

 And Rinoa had her "angel wing"...DAMN!

 You know what? IT'S FUCKING TRUE.

  You took my heart, deceived me right from the start.

You showed me dreams, I wished they'd turn into real.

You broke a promise and made me realize.

It was all just a lie.

 Well, I guess if I can't love you, then I will hate you.

 This is the last time have loved you

 This is the first time I ever hate you.

 Goodbye.

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  Sparkling angel I believe

You were my savior in my time of need.

Blinded by faith I couldn't hear

All the whispers, the warnings so clear.

I see the angels,

I'll lead them to your door.

There's no escape now,

No mercy no more.

No remorse cause I still remember

 The smile when you tore me apart.

You took my heart,

Deceived me right from the start.

You showed me dreams,

I wished they'd turn into real.

You broke a promise and made me realize.

It was all just a lie.

 Sparkling angel, I couldn't see

Your dark intentions, your feelings for me.

Fallen angel, tell me why?

What is the reason, the thorn in your eye?

I see the angels,

I'll lead them to your door

There's no escape now

No mercy no more

No remorse cause I still remember

 The smile when you tore me apart

You took my heart,

Deceived me right from the start.

You showed me dreams,

I wished they'd turn into real.

You broke a promise and made me realize.

It was all just a lie.

Could have been forever.

Now we have reached the end.

 This world may have failed you,

It doesn't give you reason why.

You could have chosen a different path in life.

 The smile when you tore me apart.

You took my heart,

Deceived me right from the start.

You showed me dreams,

I wished they'd turn into real.

You broke a promise and made me realize.

It was all just a lie.

Could have been forever.

Now we have reached the end.

At the end of the day...

It's been a long time...read a few things here and now, trying to pick up from where I left off.
But it's difficult...a lot has changed since then.
What I can say is that those concerns of mine, about being myself and enjoying life have been pretty much dealt with.
I wouldn't say I'm completely changed now, but I can surely say I'm a more mature, clear-minded, self-attuned, self-loving person nowadays. It is something I had been struggling with since my teen years...and through time, conversation, good energies, good experiences, some thinking, some letting go and a lot of letting flow, I learned to love and value myself more. I think that this is one of the most important lessons I have ever learned in my entire life.
Not that I am a 100% self-steem monster, but then, who is like that and what is that good for, anyway? I've reached a decent level of self-steem and that is what matters now.
Right now, I have other concerns. They are somewhat connected to these issues, but in another level.
But I guess I won't be talking about them tonight, I'll leave them for some other time. This is going to be a different post, because I'm going to focus on the positive. Because, well, there's a lot of it, really.

In my life, I have always been provided for my basic needs - shelter and food have never been a problem. I have been in decent health and known security.
I have been able to connect with people in a variety of levels and ways. I have a lot of good true friends and some romatic/sex partners. I have known connection and pleasure.
I have been able to reach physical-oriented goals, such as running 15 km races and performing well in Kung Fu championships. I have known active self-realization,
I have been able to practice selflessness and to care for people. I have fallen in love and I've been loved. I have known love.
I have been able to communicate well and express myself in creative ways, such as RPG and music. I sang with my band at a wedding. I have known self-expression.
I have been able to develop my mental capacities. I published a book and wrote a thesis on environmental science. I have known clarity of thought.
I have been able to experience my spiritual life. I have gathered strenght from the spiritual planes and travelled outside the body. I have known my higher consciousness.

So, as much as I have faced difficulties, at the end of the day, I can have a thankful mindset, instead of a resentful one. I realized that if I was to die today, I would look back in my life and not only be free of regrets; I'd be proud of my path, my choices, my deeds, myself.

Life struggles come and go, it's nearly impossible to live free of them, each time in our lives there are different ones. On the other hand, our self-improvements, our achievements, our better selves - those will always be around to help us face whatever difficulties come our way. Each time we overcome a situation, we acquire new strenghts and abilities, and they become part of our whole self. I will trust my own ability to overcome situations, my capacity of maturing and self-developing.

Sometimes when we're deep down in the eye of the hurricane, we're unable to see this. But with a single sidestep, we can look at things from a different, fresh, lighter perspective. By writing this, I just realized that my current issues are no more than that - temporary problems which I will learn how to deal with. But the skills and improvements that will come along when overcoming them will be part of me from now on, making me foverer stronger, wiser, more beautiful, self-assured and self-loving.

It feels good being myself tonight, and I'll probably be able feel this way from now on...<3

Reminiscing

I sometimes got so tired of our game
I wanted you to feel the same
And did I say I liked you on the plane?
I wanted you to feel the same

I wanted you to feel the same

It breaks my heart to say that when I was in pain
I wanted you to feel the same
But nothing gets you really
It's a shame
I can't believe you didn't feel a thing

I wanted you to feel the same

Sublimação

O tapa que levei

Nada mais era que um aviso, eu sei

Tudo girou e o que era meu

Agora é seu




Nada de bom virá

Dessa loucura que estava lá

Ao pensar que nesse mundo

Sou só, e mais ninguém




Tantos padrões, imposições afastam

De encontrar nossa própria essência

Ohh




Nosso silencio vai

Nos acalmar e transparecer

Toda energia que tem aqui

Eu e você




Crie sua própria luz

O seu calor

E sua missão

Infinitas chances vão surgir

Se permitir




Sublimação, imparcial da alma

Vai muito além, transcende tempo e lugar

Ohh




Você que diz até onde vai

Cada limite um novo começo

Infinitas chances vão surgir

Se permitir

O tapa que levei, muito mais foi que um aviso, eu sei

Tudo girou, e o que era meu

Agora é seu

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How...?

So today I got that feeling again...of pursuing something and then it's taken away. I did feel sad, but I'm tired of feeling this way. My situation is not good if I think about the things I most wanted...my goals, aspirations, my dreams. I feel really frustrated. But I'm trying to overcome this somehow...

I realized that much of my pain is self-inflicted...but then, how can I have goals, dreams and aspirations...and not get somehow attached to them? How can I not feel frustrated when I fail? Should I keep trying or just give up? Let me rephrase, how can I have objectives in a healthier way? I have done that before, but I wasn't rushing...sometimes it is difficult to know how fast you have to go, because there is no rule of thumb. You have to go out there and try it by yourself, and you may end up falling down if you go about wrecklessly.

If it is something you have never tried before, of course it will be messy...but if it's something that you have been putting a lot of effort and attention into, frustration is almost inevitable. I have to try and find a healthier way to connect to these goals, dreams and aspirations of mine with which I have been dealing for a while.

Pursuing goals is ultimately a matter of patience. It is taking failures with a grain of salt, but celebrating intensively every victory. I need to learn to do that and overcome frustation, cultivating a healthier mindset...I guess by doing that, at least my emotional/psychological side will be better. And that probably influences my physical aspect and my self-steem too. I think it's worth a try.

I just feel a little tired of feeling frustrated. There is more in life than that. It's just that this year, in particular, has been harsh, problem after problem. I hope in the future I will be able to learn good things and look back at these years with joy. Because right now, this is not how I feel.

I had been in a good moment of expansion a few months ago, but today I feel like shutting myself off from the world. I have done that before in many ways...but I think it ends up not helping me to improve much. It's just that, when I got out of my shell and tried to improve, I failed in many ways, and while I think that in other ways I have been successful, the feeling of failure persists more.

But I have spent far too much time feeling like a failure. I need to learn a new way to live. Simpler, healthier, without overthinking too much, more present in the moment. I need to let go of all that frustration of the past and become a new, lighter version of me. I think I know a few things I can do to help that, but I'm still learning how.

For a starter, I think I'll try to include meditation in my routine. Tomorrow morning, when I wake up, I will try it...I need to let all that shit go.

I realized

I don't want to shine.
I don't need to do a lot of fucking awesome shit that makes me stand out from everyone. No. Because
just being myself feels like a challenge enough already. I don't need anymore challenges.

I have done a few things many consider victorious and glorious. But I am not sure if that actually helped me become more self-confident or love myself more.

All I asked was to just live normally. But apparently life has other plans for me. Whenever I get happy or something seems to be working fine - there - let's take it away from him! Ok, so I try to adjust and go with the flow...it just doesn't change anything. Wether I decide to try to adjust myself (try to 'live normally') or just be authentic (try to 'embrace my crazyness'), life seems to have a way of taking things away from me.

I feel tired of having to deal with all this stuff all the time. I am hurt and feel unsafe.

Perhaps I realized this is important for me...stability. Just sort of knowing what to expect.
Yes, I know it seems we have to learn how to improvise in life and so I try to cultivate a healthy mindset when it comes to that. But that's not where my heart is.

I just missed a great professional chance now. I, like many others, I have no idea what to expect in the near future. But the problem with being myself is feeling vulnerable, and having this feeling relating to many things in my life.

How could I ignore or pretend I wasn't this insecure for such a long time? Why do I feel like shit now that I realize how frail I am? Self-discovery is supposed to bring us wisdom, but I don't know where this journey is taking me.

I can't feel safe inside myself. So I need to feel safe in my environment. What sort of risks will I have to face in order to change this feeling? Will it ever be different? Will I ever be able to be a completely different person? I cannot really cope with who I am right now.

It hasn't really been fun being myself. Others have just no idea. Guess I'd better just go to sleep today...tomorrow is another day. I wish, but I seriously don't think it will bring me anything new. I already tried and, on average, things tend to just get stuck...sooner or later.